dear sharideth: am i his Christian booty call?

Dear Sharideth,

So I’ve got a situation….there’s this boy (as there is in any situation!). We’ve known each other for about a year now, and for a couple of months we’ve been spending quite a bit of time together, heaps of texting (mostly initiated by him), and more and more one on one time recently. I quite like him! Like quite a lot! But the problem is I have no idea where I stand with him!! He’s so flirty and when we are together we act like a couple, but he NEVER actually says that he likes me…and it’s been going on for so long, it’s exhausting!

I’m scared hes never actually going to make a move and ask me out. I’m starting to feel, in a weird way, like his Christian booty call. I’ll go over and we will kind of snuggle and watch movies, but minus any committment!

It’s kind of exhausting and I feel a bit used! I really don’t know what to do. I want him to initiate whatever happens, but I have a sinking feeling he may never initate anything!

Any ideas on what I should do?

Thanks,

Just a Booty Call?

dear JABC?,

ideas?  do i have ideas?  i have tons of ideas!  most involve ways to get MegaMillions rich while not actually doing anything, but i don’t think those are the ideas you mean.

are you being treated like a Christian booty call?  yes.  does he actually think that’s all you are?  there’s no way to know that from what you’ve told me.  you’re probably going to have to straight up ask him.

breathe.  annnnnd one more time.  in and out.  in and out.

it’s not that big of a deal.  stressful?  yes.  but necessary. 

there’s really only two options:

1.  you are a booty call and you need to quit him.  the schmuck.

2.  he’s not sure what to do next and you have to let him what’s okay.

the way to figure it out is to simply tell him what you’re thinking.  like, “i really dig hanging out like this with you, but i need to know what you want next.  i’m in if there’s a next step, but if that’s not what you’re thinking, i’ve got to not do this anymore.”

got it?  yeah?  awesome.  my powers of assumption are legend.

for more on this, feel free to spend 3 minutes on “but what if i lose the friendship?”

have you ever been someone’s booty call?  Christian or otherwise?

any other advice for our friend?

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