Do women really dig chivalry? I hear they do, and I’m the sort to always have all kinds of fanciful ideas of knights and such running rampant in my head.
The follow up question is this: If women dig chivalry, what is the modern version? Obviously unless I’m part of the Renaissance Festival – which I’m not – most notions of knights and princesses go right out the window. More often than not, there’s no dragon to slay, no actual tower to rescue the princess from, and I have no horse with which to whisk her away into the sunset. If women do in fact, still dig chivalry, what does that mean they’re looking for in the modern day?
-Born A Few Hundred Years Late
First, phonetically your acronym says “baffle”. So let’s just assume this post is going to be amazing. Second, I hope your definition of “amazing” is “confusing” because if I have to guess, the comments you’re going to get are going to be all over the map. Especially since I’m going to invite some of my feminist friends over to have a say. Rachel Held Evan, Dianna Anderson and Joy Bennett, I’m looking at you.
In my never humble opinion, chivalry is not only alive and well, it is appreciated. Women appreciate courtesy. But they also appreciate respect. Open the door for her AND allow her to pay the check if she really wants to. Some women are going to want all the chivalry. All of it. Some are going to think you’re a chauvinist pig for pulling out their chair. I’m going to go out on a limb and assume you don’t want to date the latter.
Hold the hate mail. I’m only saying he won’t want to date her because he’ll want a woman who appreciates his knightly tendencies instead of thinking he’s a tool for offering his arm. Call it a Match.com thing.
Most women understand that a man is not trying oppress them or think they are incapable by offering them a hand out of the car. If you do chivalrous things and find the moment becomes awkward, odds are it’s not because she is put off, she’s just surprised. We girls no longer expect that sort of thing so it takes us a second to a) process what just happened and z) react accordingly.
Chivalry can be shocking for a woman, but it can also be a wow moment for you. Point scored.
You’re beautiful. Don’t ever change.
Oh so sincerely,
Okay, ladies. Help our hero out. How can he slay your dragons and get you on his mighty steed without offending your independence?
Guys, any other questions about chivalry? Any stories of success? Stories of failure?
That mighty steed thing didn’t sound right, did it?