a friend of mine posted on Facebook that “How do I make him love me?” is the most asked relationship question by women. i have no idea if the statics on that hold true, but if i had to guess, they probably do.
here’s the answer:
not about the answer, but about it being the end. i’ve got more to say, of course.
the first thing is, you shouldn’t have to “make” him do anything. love isn’t a chore. it’s a gift. if you’re trying to make him love you, you are either a manipulator or you’re dating the wrong guy.
a real man won’t withhold love. love might not happen, clearly not every relationship ends in happily whatever after, but it shouldn’t be because you haven’t “earned” it.
love is part of the natural course of events, not something that is forced or coerced. if you are in a relationship where you are being made to feel like you have to “perform” to get love, get out. that’s total crap. a decent guy won’t ever intentionally make you feel that way.
but you also have to be careful about your own expectations. women tend to push for the next level of commitment or emotional depth before the man is ready to move and everything gets real messy. so for love’s sake, calm down and be patient.
this is not about being worthy of love, everyone is, not believing that about yourself doesn’t make it any less true. it is about choosing someone whose love is worth having. if you have trouble with self-esteem and embracing your own value, take some time to work on that before you pick the next guy.
now that…is the end.
what are your thoughts on “how to make someone love you”?