i’m scrapping the dear sharideth for today because i need more time to decide exactly what i want to say in my response. i’ll post it tomorrow or wednesday. so there.
instead i am stealing an article posted by Knox McCoy on his Monday Morning Meatloaf and we’ll see what happens with that.
it’s called Got Cold Feet? It May Signal a Short Marriage and you can read the whole thing by clicking anywhere on that title thank you internet.
here’s the gist:
“…the authors conclude: “Doubt should not simply be dismissed as a normative experience or viewed as something that will go away once partners make a commitment to each other. Rather, feelings of premarital uncertainty should be validated, taken seriously and used as an opportunity for exploration.”
In other words, women with a serious case of cold feet might want to turn them around and run the other way.”
interestingly enough, the study says that men with cold feet are not as indicative of a marriage doomed to fail as are women with cold feet. it says, “In fact, a bride’s pre-wedding doubts more than double the odds of divorce…”
what it doesn’t say is why that might be.
so i thought it might delightful to battle that out here. SEX WARS, IGNITE!
why do you think women with doubts are more indicative of divorce than men with doubts?