love quote – yay or not so much?

found this, this morning:

To love and win is the best thing. To love and lose, the next best. – William M. Thackeray

what say you?

is he right?

is he wrong?

why to either or both of those?


oh and here’s a picture of William M. Thackeray:

p.s.  the M stands for Makepeace.  i kid you not.


9 comments on “love quote – yay or not so much?

  1. Jennwith2ns says:

    Loving and losing SUCKS . . . but I suppose it could be character-building if one let it. And it’s probably good to have a capacity to love even if it’s not requited. Just dang frustrating. Or heartbreaking.

  2. I don’t know if he’s right, but he looks like he love and lost shortly before that photo was taken.

  3. janakaye says:

    Those might be the only two options, but I don’t think one is necessarily better than the other, or creates a better life than the other. Love + Loss= Growth or Death. Love + Win= Growth or Death.

  4. I would have to agree with Mr. Thackery. True love is opening yourself up to hurt and pain. You can only be truly hurt by those that you love and trust. Love is loving even though you may get hurt. There will be pain no matter what, whether growing pain or pain of separation and loss, there will be pain. If you have never been hurt by someone, I propose that you have never truly love, either romantically or platonically.

  5. It depends on what he means by winning and losing. Assuming he means to love someone and win/lose their love in return it really depends on how someone responds. I had a friend who “lost” and then shut down his emotions for a few years. That was a bad thing, he became depressed and struggled to find hope. If you are secure in your identity, however, then a lost love can certainly shape you and teach you to love better in the future. This security can only come when we already know we’re loved (by parents, friends, or most securely, God.)

  6. asoulwalker says:

    As a poet I am (of course) completely unqualified to speak to the matter– however I will say that he does look like he just got a Dear John letter.

  7. Jessica says:

    I don’t think most people have the capacity to really appreciate love until it has been lost. People are very selfish creatures who take, take, and take. When the well is dry, we realize there’s nothing left to take. We miss being able to take. (I know… very pessimistic.)

  8. susan says:

    to love and lose is the next best thing to loving and winning? only a loser would say that….

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