if you follow me on twitter, you’re clearly intelligent and good looking. you also know i regularly tweet about the odd, ignorant or random things i see or overhear in public.
like a woman who yelled, “but i left my pizza and my mirror in that car!” in front of an Asian buffet. try to put context to that one.
recently i experienced something that made me want to kick a guy’s ballsack up into his throat, then it just made me sad.
a pack of girls walked into the bar where Craig and i were shooting pool. they sat right next to us, so i got the blow by blow whether i wanted it or not. one girl had brought out her friends to meet up with her boyfriend and his friends. cool. fine. happens all the time.
the boyfriend was a tool? douche bag? no. neither of those are strong enough. this guy was a condescending asshole. nothing subtle about it either. the way he talked to her, the way he touched her, the way he postured with his friends…everyone could see it.
it got so bad, her friends left. they tried to get her to come with them, but he made her stay. for the rest of the night he would cup her face in his hands and talk to her like she was a three year old.
i really wanted to crack his scull and shake the crap out of her.
i get a little…hostile…when i see things like that go down. it’s hard for me to not say something or intervene in some way. i manage to maintain my self control, but it isn’t easy.
why the downer post today?
because this girl is with a potential abuser and her friends know it.
if you have friends who are having a universally negative reaction to the person you’re dating, listen to them. they are seeing something you don’t.
you are not special and do not possess super powers that will “change” someone into a decent person. you cannot be good enough, love them enough or make them happy enough. no one can. people like this asshole are victimizers. they will never be with someone they cannot control.
friends and family aren’t always the best barometer. they can make mistakes. but that tends to happen with a small number. when all the friends you trust most and you know love you are in unison about their feelings, negative ones, for the person you’re dating, listen to them. get out. find someone who you don’t have to constantly defend.
have you ever seen a friend or family member making a mistake by dating someone they shouldn’t?
have you ever not listened to your friends or family and regretted it?