anybody still here?
i’ve got my computer back and i’ve been cured of SARS, so we can resume the nonsense i spew here now.
ready?! OH! KAY!
“i love you, but i’m not in love with you” is one of those phrases you see a lot and sometimes wonder if anyone has ever actually said it.
let me assure you, they have. and by they, i mean me. it’s how i turned down a marriage proposal.
it’s official, sharideth. you’re a terrible person.
yes, i am, but not for saying that to someone. we weren’t even dating when he asked me to marry him. had only dated for about 2 weeks a year earlier. he was a good friend and i did love him, but i was most definitely not in love with him. i wasn’t even in like with him. he was just my friend.
my friend who’s heart i squashed like the spider who crawled across my eyebrow last night.
some people think this phrase is a cop-out. i call those people, The Wrong Ones.
you can feel genuine love for someone, but not be in love with her. happens all the time. even with those you date. we can’t just run around falling in love with everyone. that would be madness. MADNESS! i say!
let’s define both parts of this phrase, shall we? we shall.
“i love you…” – i have sincere feelings of caring for you. i would probably take a bullet for you, but would at least back you up in a bar fight. you matter deeply to me and i want nothing but good and happy things to happen to you.
“…but i’m not in love with you.” – i don’t have those romantic feelings of can’t-live-without-you. i tried to. i wanted to. it didn’t happen.
anyone who finds himself in a position where he has to use this phrase, or some variation thereof, feels like pond scum. it’s not fun. and it’s not a cop-out. cop-outs don’t make you feel like pond scum.
“i love you, but i’m not in love with you” is a legit expression of reality. cliche or not. but that doesn’t make it suck any less for either party.
have you ever had to say this or had this said to you?
what are other relationship cliches?