since we’ve been talking about cross-gender friendships, i figured i’d just stay with it. i’m boring like that.
sorry, had to mute a documentary on the polyurethane skate wheel. it was distracting me.
anyhoo, having friends of the opposite sex is great and all. sometimes. but if you are using them as your own personal Cloak of Invisibility, we’ve got a problem. and by we, i mean you. Harry Potter reference is free of charge.
going out with your friends is a hoot. but it’s also an opportunity to meet other people. specifically, datable people.
ladies, guys are going to be less likely to approach you if you have boy “friends” attached to the hip of your low-rise jeans. dudes don’t know if one of those other dudes you’re with is into you or you’re into him, so they keep their distance. it’s part of the guy code.
guys, when you’re out with your girl “friends” and giving them all of your attention, you are sending “not accessible” vibes. and “not accessible” is whole lot different than “not interested”. “not interested” can work in your favor. “not accessible” is just a boundary most women won’t bother with.
the solution, stop it.
but sharideth, that means i have to give up my comfort zone and put myself out there and talk to people i don’t know!!
yep. that’s what that means. the longer you stay hidden behind your friends, male or female, the longer you’ll be alone and frustrated.
sharideth, you’re not very nice.
no. i’m not. welcome to my blog.
but sharideth, why do you keep pretending like we’re talking to you? you’re not Jim Gaffigan.
because i’ll steal ideas from whoever i please and again, welcome to my blog.
short blog short, the next time you go out, leave your friends of the opposite sex behind and mingle. i know it sounds 6 shades of terrifying to some of you, but you’re a grown up. you can do this.
do you use your friends as shields?
is it scary for you to talk to strangers?