there’s an expectation for single guys to be out every night just looking for a girl to nail. it’s all over TV, the internet, your buddy who can’t keep his pants up even if they were stapled to his waist…
i call bullshit.
i talk to a lot of single men. Lord knows you can’t throw a guitar pick and not hit one in the eye in Nashville. many are good friends, some are guys i barely know. but almost to a man they tell me the same thing.
they want relationship.
i met a guy this weekend who said, “i’m a serial monogamist.” he also said what ended up being my favorite quote of the weekend…”a girl took a shit in my heart and now i’m an asshole. down deep i’m still a good guy, but one the surface, an asshole.”
wow, sharideth, such language.
yeah, well, shit happens.
ennyweigh, the conversation was familiar. sailor talk and all. he’s an eligible bachelor being told he should be out spreading his seed far and wide and that just doesn’t sit well with him. he even teetered on thinking he’s in the minority.
the Jersey Shore can shove it.
dudes are visual creatures. are you going to notice that a girl is crazy hott before your brain ever tracks to wondering about her personality? heck yes. that’s how you’re built. it is neither a crime, nor a commentary on your moral fiber. what’s going to set you apart is what you do after the initial burst of lust subsides.
you and guys like you would rather go home alone than end up with something/someone cheap and meaningless for a few hours. and that is not only noble, it’s normal. all guys feel the urge to jump on an open opportunity, but the majority just won’t do that.
from the shy guy to the alpha male, men want relationship. you may not be out there shouting it from the roof of the nearest Hooters, but it’s true. i’m pretty sure you guys think you’re the odd man out simply because you don’t talk about this stuff with each other. you’re much better at back-slapping and pointing out a finely curved female buttock. that, too, is normal. but let me just affirm something for you…
unless you make it a habit of surrounding yourself with douche bags who have no discernible decency, your friends feel the same way about relationship that you do. and just like you, they are saying nothing because they think they must be weird.
now you know.
guys, have you ever felt like you were in the minority when it comes to wanting a relationship?
girls, are you at all surprised by this?