the first two years of marriage part 2

Dearly beloved
We are gathered here today
2 get through this thing called life

sharideth, why would you quote Prince when starting another serious post about marriage?

the real question is, why wouldn’t i?!?!!!!1!1??

everything you need to know about getting through this thing called life the first two years of marriage is right there in all it’s purple glory.

i could’ve also used Starship’s Nothing’s Going To Stop Us Now.  i can’t help it if i write these things while listening to Summer Hits of the 80’s on Pandora.  just be glad Billy Jean didn’t come on first.

let’s rock the breakdown.

Dearly beloved – see!  obviously about marriage.
We are gathered here today – today?  boom!  nailed it!
2 get through this thing called life – well, aren’t we?

Electric word life = blog
It means forever and that’s a mighty long time – vows people.  vows.  when you take them, it’s suppose to be forever.
But I’m here 2 tell u = me
There’s something else – do tell!
The afterworld – everything that comes after those first two years.  kids, career, getting rid of the kids, retirement, getting old and awesomely grumpy together.

A world of never ending happiness – aka a life well lived together.  spend the first two years working on nothing but communication and understanding and grace.  then spend the next 70 living it out.
U can always see the sun, day or night – optimism, people.  always give your spouse the benefit of the doubt.  never assume they intended to hurt you.

So when u call up that shrink in Beverly Hills – marriage counseling of course.  don’t be ashamed if you need some.  it’s smart and brave to ask for help if you need it.
U know the one – Dr Everything’ll Be Alright – and it will.  Prince doesn’t lie.
Instead of asking him how much of your time is left – ’til death do you part.
Ask him how much of your mind, baby – yeah, baby, yeah!  think it through.  be as objective as possible.

‘Cuz in this life – shazam!
Things are much harder than in the afterworld – for reals.  reality can sometimes hit you like a Mack truck, but you can choose to breathe and hit the reset button on your emotions.
In this life – yes?  what, Prince, what?!?!
You’re on your own – take responsibility for your own crap.  work at being the person worthy of a lifetime of love.  you cannot fix both of you, so make sure you are constantly taking stock of your own shortcomings and work on those.

And if de-elevator tries 2 bring u down – and it will in this thing called life.
Go crazy – punch a higher floor – rise above it.


if all else fails, pop Let’s Go Crazy into your boom box and dance your asses off until you are both exhausted and laughing and start again.

go crazy.  whatever that looks like for you.  from jumping in the car and taking off to parts unknown to sitting down and talking about things that terrify you.

just remember the joy of those first days and fight your way back to it.  never let anything get to the point of resentment and always hold to the commitment you made to each other.

let’s get nuts!

did any of that make any sense?

have i actually lost my mind?

is Prince not amazing?



8 comments on “the first two years of marriage part 2

  1. Jason says:

    This and Prince are both amazing. I dressed as him last Halloween and am considering retiring from Halloween for the rest of my life since I’ll never be able to top it. Keep in mind, I probably should retire from Halloween because I’m now in my mid twenties.

  2. Thanks. You did freak me out now and I am truly hoping this wasn’t the positive one yet. Because it isn’t. The answer to your questions, in the same order.

    – Nope.
    – Uhu. No no, just stay seated, no need to come over here. Right over there. No touching during the session.
    – He’s got something.

  3. Jakz says:

    You haven’t lost your mind, at least in regards to this post. “never let anything get to the point of resentment”… I love that line, especially in the context of marriage.

  4. Julie says:

    This is brilliant. I’d forgotten that song. Made me smile.

  5. I’m just going to sit over here in the corner dumbfounded that you made all of that out of one Prince song. Don’t mind me. Please tell your guests that the tall skinny guy in the corner is not a coatrack.

    I’m impressed with your ability to pull all of that out of those lyrics.

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