Mexico just passed a new law that after two years a couple has the option to end a marriage as though it didn’t happen.
yeah. take that in for a minute.
have you heard about this? they figure since the majority of marriages end within the first two years, may as well just let everyone have the option of pretending like it never took place.
i haven’t heard an idea this bad since Crystal Pepsi.
the idea that letting people off the hook at two years will cut down on the divorce rate is like saying lowering the drinking age will cut down on underage drinking.
a big chunk of marriages end within the first two years because people panic and convince themselves they made the wrong choice. it happened to Craig and i. our lowest moment was right at the two year mark. it went something like this:
Craig: “i’m going to go take a bath. if you’re still here when i get out, we’ll talk. but you need to decide.”
i was still sitting on the couch in the same spot he left me when his water got cold.
i was 22 and immature. i was an idiot for ever making him have to throw down like that.
what happened with us was hard, but not uncommon. something about that second year sends people into freak out mode. happens all the time. allowing a marriage to disappear at that stage is more foolish than i have words to describe. i can’t say i could get behind any time frame for this type of thing, but two years is the worst possible timing.
Craig and i stayed together because the respect for marriage my parents instilled in me finally kicked in at the last second and i knew walking out on my commitment was not an option. i can’t say i wouldn’t have taken Mexico’s loophole had it been offered to me. it would’ve been too easy and awfully tempting.
and utterly selfish. Craig hadn’t done anything to deserve what i put him through.
laws like the one in Mexico send a clear message that marriage doesn’t have to be taken seriously. the truth is, if you can get past the first two years, it’s much easier to stay together. you learn to compromise, to talk, to respect and to breathe. setting a trial period on marriage is a joke. and not a funny one.
i’m going to write another blog at some point about dealing with the first two years of marriage because that needs its own page time, but for now i’m just going on record as being absolutely 100% against this Mexico marriage massacre. divorce should be made more difficult, not easier.
now if you’ll excuse me, i have a soap box to burn.
anyone else experience trouble in the first two years of marriage? how did it work out?
those not married yet, have i completely freaked you out?