do you have friends that you can’t play Monopoly with because you end up wanting to give them multiple paper cuts with the money and shove the train down their neck? yeah? me too.
okay, confession…i am that friend. all bets are off until the game is over as far as i’m concerned. we can go back to liking each other after i destroy you and take all your property.
did you know that competition can be a good gauge for how healthy a relationship is? well, it can. so there.
how you or your girl react to the competitive process can be pretty telling about emotional stability.
if you revert to ape like chest thumping when you beat her at putt putt golf, you’re a douche bag.
if she refuses to speak to you and goes all ice princess after losing to you at Go Fish, she’s a passive aggressive cow.
if you pout like a two year old and declare “this game is dumb!” when she beats you at Yahtzee, you need to grow the frack up. baby.
if she’s condescending and makes you feel like an idiot when she beats you at Boggle, she thinks she smarter than you and will take any and all opportunities to prove it. (i may
do have done this)
however, if your competitions end in some good natured teasing, no matter how hard you fought to win, that’s a sign of a healthy emotional relationship. people tend to lose their ability to keep their mask of decency on when competing against someone else. i’m pretty sure that is science. your base nature takes over and it’s really hard to hide it.
Craig beats me at pool more than i beat him. fine by me. just makes me work harder to get better. but he won’t even play word games with me. we do have offensive pet names for each other we use when we get beat, but that’s all in good fun.
moral of the story, if competitive situations result in hours or days long recovery time to get over the negative feelings, the problem is much deeper than just losing at Words With Friends.
for people that are emotionally stable and emotionally mature, losing or winning just isn’t that big of a deal. a big ol’ “IN YO FACE!” just doesn’t ruin your day.
ever run into someone who behaves badly when winning or losing?
are you a good loser or bad loser? good winner? bad winner?