i like bourbon. a lot. i even go to an event every couple of months called The Bourbon Trust. it’s an invitation only thing held in a private home and everyone brings a bottle of bourbon to share and taste. ever had bourbon that smelled like strawberries and tasted like warm caramel? i have. i’m pretty sure angels made it.
i also like moonshine straight out of the jar. but sometimes it’s a red wine kind of night or tequila and lime or even something that comes in a fish bowl with a neon green umbrella sticking out of it.
dates are the same way.
there’s an ebb and flow of preference and mood. sometimes understated with a dash of sophistication, sometimes over the top and ridiculous.
but how do you know what flavor to choose? how do you know where to take her and what kind of tone to set?
1. take her temperature – orally. lest there be any confusion. do your best to read her mood. if she’s bouncing off the walls, maybe something outrageous. see here. if she’s mellow, maybe take her somewhere just to relax and talk. i.e. bistro, wine bar, museum…if you can’t figure her out, do something daring, like asking her what she’s up for. then be ready to deliver.
2. determine the goal – what do you want to accomplish with this date? do you need to talk seriously? do you just want to blow off some steam? do you want to show off your mad air hockey skills? if you need to DTR (define the relationship), Chuck E Cheese is probably not the place. then again, it might be. you never know what can happen over bad pizza and kid spit.
3. shock value – if you’ve been doing the same type of thing over and over again, change it up. do something completely off her radar. sophisticated girls like to get nuts on occasion and crazy girls (crazy in the good way) like having a reason to get fancy. keep her on the toes of her hooker heals.
4. prove you’re paying attention – if she’s been talking about the Cold Play concert for months, get tickets. if she mentions how much she’s always wanted to do Movie in the Park, take her. if she’s obsessed with Twilight, decide if this is a deal breaker and act accordingly.
this works for first dates all the way through long term marriages. never stop dating. dating is oodles of fun.
what did i miss? what are other ways to figure where to go on a date?