i’m not calling this one a Dear Sharideth because it was in amongst the ask me anything questions and i kinda thought it could use its own blog post…
For starters…love the blog.
There is a girl I used to be very tight with, this is nearly 3 years ago now. I had a crush on her, and we suddenly stopped talking, and I’m not sure why exactly. Would it be weird to try talking to her again now? I don’t want anything romantic, just a friendship…is this possible? Or am I crazy?
for starters…the blog loves you, too.
and nope. you are not crazy.
the remedy to this situation is probably the most appropriate use of social media there is. email her or send her a message on Facebook. i actually did this with a guy i dated who i had had exactly zero communication with in almost 20 years. i ran into his mom and she was clearly not well. i wanted to know if she was okay, so i contacted him. he was glad i did and we’re now friends on Facebook.
no weirdness, just contact. that’s what i recommend. i wouldn’t even send her a friend request, just a note.
what i don’t recommend is immediately dropping the “why did we stop talking” bomb on her. keep it light. something simple like, “i was just thinking about you and decided to look you up. how are things?”
then leave it be.
if you get a response, great. friendship renewed. if you don’t, let it go. the reason is probably along the lines of she’s dating someone or married or whatever and isn’t comfortable rekindling a friendship with a man. don’t take it as some sort of rejection of you personally.
and definitely don’t try again. that just gets weird. if she wants to communicate, you’ve given the means to do it. leave the rest up to her.
anyone had a successful reconnection with an old friend or old flame?
any not so successful?