Ricky Anderson is a guy. he writes stuff. this is is the second time he’s written stuff for my blog. he’s cool or whatever.
I remember it like it was yesterday.
Jana and I had been dating for a few months, and things were starting to get serious. We had even traded a few “I love you”s. One of my high school friends was getting married, and we were invited to her wedding. It was an outdoor wedding; a fancy get-up at the golf course. During the ceremony, Jana leaned over and whispered to me, “Sarah sure has on a pretty dress.” That’s what she said, but what I heard was, “I hope my dress at our wedding, which I have all planned out in infinite detail, and shall commence in the next six minutes, is that pretty.”
I went from Joe Cool to Chicken Little in half a second flat. I literally broke out in a cold sweat and wanted to take off running down the fairway. This, ye single gents, is how you tell you are NOT ready to propose. Obviously the story doesn’t end there, because then I wouldn’t be married and I wouldn’t be qualified to tell you when you’re ready to propose. Well, I am married, and I am qualified to tell you how to plan your love life.
What makes me qualified, you ask? It’s simple: I’m writing this post and you’re not. So quit interrupting and look at my hastily organized list:
You Are Ready to Propose If All the Following Items Are True:
You’ve met a girl.
You’ve been dating each other longer than a Bachelor contestant.
You respect each other’s views on the big things in life like religion, money, politics and how far away to live from your possible in-laws.
You don’t have fights; you have disagreements…and you resolve them.
You can be yourself around her.
She doesn’t run from your B.O.
You don’t run from her cooking.
You love her.
But the biggest factor for me was when I got to the point that the idea of not being married to Jana scared me more than the idea of being married at all. I couldn’t imagine myself without her. I would glance at her hand and get actively bothered at her bare ring finger. I wanted other guys to know she was taken, and they could buzz off. I saved and saved for her engagement ring. When I got a smaller paycheck than I planned, thus moving the big date farther into the future, my best friend spent an hour calming me down.
When you think about your future, and she is all you want, that is how you know you’re ready to propose. Good luck!
okay peeps. proposal stories. let’s hear’em.
feel free to post a link to one of those youtube videos of crazy proposals if you don’t have one of your own.