so that terrible video last week that we thought was serious, then we thought was a joke, now we think is serious again*….yeah, that one. well, craig and i have been hashing and rehashing the need for such a thing in the first place. let alone one that is painfully awkward and makes women wonder if there are cameras in their bedrooms. is it really necessary?
in our opinion**, no. no it isn’t.
there’s a bunch of videos on how to pick up women/talk to women/creep women right out, but it’s all a gimmick. does the gimmick work? sometimes. the question is, why would you want to start any sort of interaction with a woman being anything other than who you are? that’s fishing for quantity, not quality.
i’ve actively avoided the how-to-pick-up-chicks topic here at AWGTW. primarily because that’s not what women are into. being picked up, that is. however, women are into being approached. notice the switch from “chicks” to “women”? yeah, that’s important. chicks are into being picked up. that’s quantity. women are into being approached. that’s quality.
here’s the super secret woman code breaker on talking to them….
be comfortable. be confident. know who you are.
go buy a package of those “hello, my name is…” name tags and memorize them. then ask her her name. follow it up with a “what brings you out tonight?” or “how do you know the host?” and like a miracle, a conversation is started.
“but i’m shy!”, you say? perfect. women love shy guys who man up and talk to them. it’s uber flattering and they will usually help you out with the rest after you say hello.
the point is guys, to get a quality woman, be a quality man. gain some confidence, get comfortable in your own skin, know your worth and say hello.
look, if you’re new at this or shy or still finding your feet confidence wise, then just remind yourself that talking to a woman isn’t a big deal. your only purpose in approaching her is to figure out if you can have a conversation with a woman you find attractive. sometimes you’ll win, sometimes you’ll lose. but the loss isn’t always your fault. some women just don’t have a lot to offer no matter how pretty they may be. if having a conversation is like trying extract blood from a stone, move on. don’t put so much pressure on yourself to “succeed”. succeed at what exactly? this is early days. this is training wheels for anything real.
to take a page out of greg d’s book of shudders, your “sub com” should tell her you are worthy of her attention. you just have to believe it yourself.
relax. you’ll be fine.
what would your “how to approach women” say?
*the video lives. someone put it on youtube on a separate account before it got deleted. someone was smart. or mean. i go back and forth on that.
**i’m throwing craig under the bus with me on this post.