a guy I know did a 6 year long stint in Hades with a girl who systematically emasculated him, then cheated on him after they got engaged. she was like a perfect storm of horrible.
fast forward a year and he’s sitting in a bar desperate to send a second text message to a girl to make sure she got the first one. the only thing standing between him and complete annihilation of his manhood is the fact that a buddy took his phone away.
let’s break this down, shall we?
six years of abuse and degradation and the idiot still asked her to marry him. she cheats while they’re engaged and it takes him a year to start dating again. seven years of his life, gone.
he’s needy. he abandoned his pride and his own identity in exchange for the proverbial dangling carrot. “i love you. maybe i don’t. you should buy me that, then i’ll love you more.” yank, dangle, yank, dangle. the self respect meter has totally bottomed out. his desperation to get a response to his text and busted meter were only going to land him the emotional equivalent of expendable in From Dusk Til Dawn.
time for confidence 101.
there’s a very simple way to avoid soul sucking vampires like my friend’s ex-wretch. know your worth. the public at large and women specifically, will value you at whatever price tag you put on yourself. are you Armani or Men’s Warehouse? nobody can say but you.
it’s only when you cease to need her that a girl of quality will appear. a girl of worth wants a guy who is worthy. know who you are, become content with that and gain respect by respecting yourself.
so feel free to send that first text. then let it go. if she gets back to you. great. go get dinner. i hear Hooter’s has great wings. kidding. don’t go there. if she blows you off, her loss. you’re time is valuable and so are you.
notice that i used vampire analogy without a single reference to Twilight? you’re welcome.